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| DjZelous |
Hallo people. I'm here to pretty much let off some steam. Soo here I go. My parents are hardcore Christians and are forcing me to want to be one... I have nothing against it, it's simply not my thing. My parents know djing is my passion but they refuse to ever let me play at parties because it's not "right". If I ask why they don't let me I get this "do you think a Christian boy like your self should be at a party where there's drugs and drinking". It's my dream to become a dj full time but I'm nearly 17 and things don't seem like they are gonna take off... and now I'm here just to ask for some help and advice... |
| kazukism92 |
First: Sorry for the bad english and
Well dude, my mom doesn't know about that I'm a DJ. Until now after the random situation of HSB, and she supports the idea and well... the thing is, if you like do stuff that you made and really makes you happy, just do it, because is your dream, not your parents' dream, the friends' dream or any other persons dream (or even hobby).
Also, you have 17... you are so close to be independent dude. |
| wong |
Id tell em to bollocks and get on with it |
| Hard2Get |
quote:
Originally posted by DjZelous:
Hallo people. I'm here to pretty much let off some steam. Soo here I go. My parents are hardcore Christians and are forcing me to want to be one... I have nothing against it, it's simply not my thing. My parents know djing is my passion but they refuse to ever let me play at parties because it's not "right". If I ask why they don't let me I get this "do you think a Christian boy like your self should be at a party where there's drugs and drinking". It's my dream to become a dj full time but I'm nearly 17 and things don't seem like they are gonna take off... and now I'm here just to ask for some help and advice...
I most most of the population has suffered their parents not wanting them to do what they want to do at some point lol. Just wait til you're old enough then whatever the **** you want. |
| Triquatra |
yes, eventually you will be able to do whatever you want. |
| Captain Triceps |
Not to sound too negative either, but try not to pin too many hopes on becoming a full time DJ.
(Assuming you mean DJing will be how you make your living), I was the same around that age, believing that in a couple of years I'd be headlining major events with all the big names, etc. Not that simple. I was a mobile DJ for some time, working often twice a weekend, making a nice amount of money but it was just to make ends meet and maybe a few beers. Sadly these days there's just not enough money in it.
I am just guessing here you mean a hardcore DJ, by the way? Or do you mean DJing in general? |
| AceofSpades_Lorenzo |
Eventually you're just going to have to stop caring & do what makes you happy(Probably once you're at college or something?)
Otherwise; you're going to end up being a very sheltered person in your 20's like me ;) which is not good at all :x & If you were raised a hardcore christian; chances are you're pretty sheltered to begin with
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| ultraskool |
quote:
Originally posted by DjZelous:
Hallo people. I'm here to pretty much let off some steam. Soo here I go. My parents are hardcore Christians
'hardcore' Christians eh? tell 'em to 'ave a listen to this track:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXlmFL6zW_8 |
| latininxtc |
Just run away from home!
Or get a job, save up money, and when you turn 18 move out. And then you can do whatever you want. |
| DJ_FunDaBounce |
Being catholic, I've grappled with the situation as well. It's not easy to find a balance, not just in the party scene but in the whole entertainment industry. I started out in music playing in a band when I was about your age. At that time I was easily influenced as a person in general. When people around me started taking drugs I really didn't have a strong bond with my parents so as to talk about it. So I followed my own judgement. Though I'd like to say "things turned out for the best", they actually didn't. As I started to venture into the world as a 'young adult' more situtations came up where I would just go with the flow or against the grain entierly, and by the time I was 21 I hit rock bottom. all the drugs I took (mixed up with hints of a spiritual personality) led me to a nervous breakdown. For years after this I struggled to find myself again. I knew it wasn't the music's fault. There are drugs in every music scene I know of. So I went back to square one: the music. If making music is your passion, and you're being as honest to yourself about everything in your life as you possibly can, I believe things WILL turn out for the best. God wants the best for all of us. If anything, keep working on what makes you a better musician. And as a Christian, be one, no matter where or what scene you end up in. |
| Rodz90 |
Watch Kevin & Perry Go Large.
Some serious life lessons in there for you. |
| DjZelous |
quote:
Originally posted by Captain Triceps:
Not to sound too negative either, but try not to pin too many hopes on becoming a full time DJ.
(Assuming you mean DJing will be how you make your living), I was the same around that age, believing that in a couple of years I'd be headlining major events with all the big names, etc. Not that simple. I was a mobile DJ for some time, working often twice a weekend, making a nice amount of money but it was just to make ends meet and maybe a few beers. Sadly these days there's just not enough money in it.
I am just guessing here you mean a hardcore DJ, by the way? Or do you mean DJing in general?
Well as I said, it's just a dream. I know it's HARD to really make it. But I just wish I could just "wet my feet" to get a taste of how it is. I've never even been to a party :( the closest I've been to a party is when me and my other dj friends get together to do a mix. And I would love to play some hardcore as a dj not even as full time, but just as a hobby and to make some extra cash... but I'll just have to wait til I move out I guess(cues Billy Joel's moving out) :3 |
| Captain Triceps |
Try and get a few local gigs. You'd probably be surprised at the amount of places that have no resident DJ, or an overworked one that wants to do alternate weekends or whatever.
Or maybe if you know a DJ who is working, go on a few gigs with him. That's how I started out. I spent several years doing mobile DJing, totally different ball game but gives you a taste for it.
I've been resident at my local for about ten years (not as shit as it sounds, honestly!), and that does me fine. I certainly have no plans on being a full time DJ, it would kill me, and I have a family now anyway. |
| don_simon3000 |
the only advice ever can be that you should move out asap. i know this is easy said and difficult to do, if you dont have any contacts like i had, it took me till 22 before i could move out and 2 more years or so to realize that now i can live my own life.
your big advantage should be that you are located in the us, thats a pretty big country. try make some contacts and connections and use them to your advantage. |
| silver |
Be honest with them, tell them you are going to do with or without their support, tell them if you become a famous DJ people will want to follow my example.
DJing is also a "hobby" where you wont injured, would they rather have a hooby like football, car racing, skiing or hunting? |
| Ionosphere |
There is plenty of time young 'Zealous.... (forgive me if I've spealt it correctly)
You are lucky. Your parents obviously care for you. They wouldn't trouble themselves by upsetting you if they didn't.
In your situation I would gently point out that becoming a professional DJ is your 'dream' and
the day will eventually come when you get a job, move out, get a home of your own and they
will no longer have control.
You will be free to do as you wish.
....of course by then, if not before, you'll have found something far more interesting, usually women or, as so often happens,
one woman in particular who is the be all and end all of everything.... until you realise that you were completely wrong and
she is little more than just another self-serving little ****.
By then the likelihood is that you'll have grown up, got over your current 'dream' of being a DJ and
will be grateful that you didn't give your parents a hard time right now and you'll find that because you respected them,
they'll be there to help and comfort you in your coming times of need.
As always. I could be wrong.
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| Hard2Get |
quote:
Originally posted by Ionosphere:
There is plenty of time young 'Zealous.... (forgive me if I've spealt it correctly)
You are lucky. Your parents obviously care for you. They wouldn't trouble themselves by upsetting you if they didn't.
In your situation I would gently point out that becoming a professional DJ is your 'dream' and
the day will eventually come when you get a job, move out, get a home of your own and they
will no longer have control.
You will be free to do as you wish.
....of course by then, if not before, you'll have found something far more interesting, usually women or, as so often happens,
one woman in particular who is the be all and end all of everything.... until you realise that you were completely wrong and
she is little more than just another self-serving little ****.
By then the likelihood is that you'll have grown up, got over your current 'dream' of being a DJ and
will be grateful that you didn't give your parents a hard time right now and you'll find that because you respected them,
they'll be there to help and comfort you in your coming times of need.
As always. I could be wrong.
You managed to say all that without being the least bit condescending. Seriously, kudos lol.
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| Lilley |
quote:
Originally posted by Hard2Get:
quote:
Originally posted by Ionosphere:
There is plenty of time young 'Zealous.... (forgive me if I've spealt it correctly)
You are lucky. Your parents obviously care for you. They wouldn't trouble themselves by upsetting you if they didn't.
In your situation I would gently point out that becoming a professional DJ is your 'dream' and
the day will eventually come when you get a job, move out, get a home of your own and they
will no longer have control.
You will be free to do as you wish.
....of course by then, if not before, you'll have found something far more interesting, usually women or, as so often happens,
one woman in particular who is the be all and end all of everything.... until you realise that you were completely wrong and
she is little more than just another self-serving little ****.
By then the likelihood is that you'll have grown up, got over your current 'dream' of being a DJ and
will be grateful that you didn't give your parents a hard time right now and you'll find that because you respected them,
they'll be there to help and comfort you in your coming times of need.
As always. I could be wrong.
You managed to say all that without being the least bit condescending. Seriously, kudos lol.
Yup. I was just planning to quote the OP and laugh. |
| Darts |
It's nice that your parents care... they probably don't understand that there are a lot of really nice people in the rave scene and that it is possible to play an active role in things without going completely off the rails and losing all your teeth after getting hooked on meth.
Winning a battle against religious parents who believe they have your best interests at heart won't be easy. You'll probably come up against a lot of resistance and psychological / emotional pressure, but it's up to you to prove to them that this is what you really want to do and it's going to take a lot of persistence and resilience from you to get them onside.
Definitely stick in at college and try to make sure you've got a good 'normal' job / career going on in life. If you're going to get anywhere with DJ'ing it needs a lot of investment (decks, studio equipment & software, travel to gigs, promotional material, etc) so a good income will help you immeasurably - and there's also no guarantees that you'll ever get into a position where you can make money from music (the odds are heavily against you) so it's really important to do the ground work while you're still young and get a good career to fall back on. I didn't, and even though I am amazing, I'm suffering for it financially now.
God would want you to make the most of your life and follow your heart - but also use your common sense  |
| _Jay_ |
quote:
Originally posted by Darts:
without going completely off the rails and losing all your teeth after getting hooked on meth.
LOL.
quote:
Originally posted by Darts:
I didn't, and even though I am amazing, I'm suffering for it financially now.
LOL.
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| Shades |
leave a McDonalds job application form lying around.....
It'll work wonders |
| djDMS |
Exactly.
Find something even more horrifying than DJ'ing and suggest that as an alternative. |
| DjZelous |
quote:
Originally posted by djDMS:
Exactly.
Find something even more horrifying than DJ'ing and suggest that as an alternative.
Hmmmm.... crack dealing might work lol |
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