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You236
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 Posted - 2004/06/04 : 06:25:03
I dont normally post much but im having an issue.. What do you do when some one you love gives you reason to believe that theyre being unfaithful but not to any one in person.. but online relationships?.. & youve found tons of things from convos to numbers (long distance) and you cant confront them about it, because they turn it around onto you. But when you analyze it, you dont think they could do anything like that because when your together it doesnt come up, like she is different... &I couldnt confront them about it because that would threaten the whole thing we have and Im afraid of the truth.. I dont know what to do, Its killing me.
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Chicken
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Posted - 2004/06/04 : 06:47:16
Trust me, it's way better to confront them on what you feel is going on and clearing it up with them. If you keep silent about it, it will be bad for you. Not to mention, if you have a good relationship, you should be able to confront her about anything and it wont hurt the reationship. It's better for your relationship if you don't have doubts.
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You236
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Posted - 2004/06/04 : 06:52:13
but ive tried.. and she just dances around it..
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Shade0
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Posted - 2004/06/04 : 08:55:40
Ive been there.. In the end i cheated on her. THat way i could hold it as ammunition in case of the worst. I dont recommend this though.
Chicken is right though. Be tactfull about it, sont blatantly say "youre cheating on me arent you", and never, i repeat never say "I DONT BELIEVE YOU".
THe problem with love is you are always going to have doubts and worries, its a sign you care and a lot of the time its worries about nothing.
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silver
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Posted - 2004/06/04 : 09:04:57
Just ask them to explain it, if they say something and you don't believe them just say... "ok I believe you"... Let guilt eat them for a while.
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Chicken
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Posted - 2004/06/04 : 10:25:40
Well, if she dances around it, you need to tell her "look, you're avoiding my question, you need to answer me." Let her know it's important to you, and that it's bothering you.
Absence is to love
What wind is to fire;
It extinguishes the small,
It enkindles the great
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JesterDJ
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Posted - 2004/06/04 : 14:32:09
chicken knows it for sure. there is only one thing to do. grab her when the time is right; i.e. when there is no where for her to run and nothing for her to do instead. don't do it when the tele is on or anything like that. get her when you know she has nothing to do so you can take your time over it.
another thing you can do is leave things around that make her think (if she is cheating) that your on to her.
u say u found internet conversations yeah? use the internet and open up the msn messsenger and djust leave the convos open.
if she has cheated and she sees that, she will shit a brick; all you gotta do then is see if there is any change in her behaviour. if there is then that means shes worried that you've found out.
then strike when the irons hot. don't give her notice of when your gonna talk to her, jump it on her and she will panic and won't be able to think up lies when you question her.
tried, tested, and approved mate. unfortunately. u might not like the outcome but ur better off knowing then not.
good luck mate
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