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JesterDJ
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 Posted - 2004/08/29 : 14:18:33
Hi everyone.
For achange there is gonna be a calm and slightly more normal and down to earth post from the Jester. not good circumstances i'm afraid.
Basically i've been with my girlfriend for just short of nine months, and for the past month things have gone down hill and its become more give than take for me.
although she says stufff like she loves me (which she says way too much) i can't help but notice that so much stuff that happens she seems to turn onto me as if its my fault and i end up on a guilt trip.
What i'm trying to say is that as much as i care about her, i can't take her acting like this anymore so what i wanna ask you folks (girls in particular) what would be the best way to let her down but be firm enough so that she gets the message completely rather than it dragging out longer.
thanks everyone for any contribution.
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Triquatra
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 Posted - 2004/08/29 : 15:00:31
bleh, how annoying, alot of women are like this (no offense ladys)
maybe you should ask her straight out, "whats up" and then explain nice and simply what the problem is, and at then at the end of it say somthing along the lines of "i just feel like i can talk to you about this openly to you, which i am very thankful for.." or somthing along the lines of that, say somthing nice at the end of it that lets her know that your not trying to nit pick, but at the same time you do want to talk it out so you can move on with things..
dont end it by saying "so we gonna shag now, or what?" lol <--possibly the best piece of advice im gonna be able to give you
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Dave Murray
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 15:53:35
Shag her mum.
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Stony McTony
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 17:43:15
erm nice errrrr constructive? post there dave, dont tell lets just be frends cos the likely out come is that u won't be, ure jus gunna have to tell her straight up that u dont wanna be there nemore. harsh but true. neway i hope ure more cheery soon these kinda things suck but u gotta do em
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Dave Murray
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 17:46:05
Yes, im not good at advice.
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 18:21:28
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alot of women are like this (no offense ladys)
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sexy_Rhi_Rhi
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 18:34:54
PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFT!!!
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tunnelrush
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 18:53:34
These Might work 
"I think your sisters' prettier"
"I swear babe its not you....its me"
"Theres this wierd rash i got the other day and i dont think you want ANY of it"
good luck with that jester. In all seriuosness i dont think there will be an easier way to lay it down. Id do what Triquatra said. Tell her straight out what the problem is and see how she reacts to that. Loving chicks understand, Cold-hearted chicks couldnt care less how you felt. youll see.....
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The Deviant
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 18:54:44
The best way out if this is to do something stupid and make her dump you. That way you'll know she won't have anything else to do with you.
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Simon
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 19:43:48
In the words of Homer Simpson "3 words.....I Am Gay".
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whispering
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 19:54:12
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Originally posted by JesterDJ:
What i'm trying to say is that as much as i care about her, i can't take her acting like this anymore so what i wanna ask you folks (girls in particular) what would be the best way to let her down but be firm enough so that she gets the message completely rather than it dragging out longer.
So in other words, when it gets tough your gonna give up?
If you really care about her, your stupid if your gonna leave her. I think you should first just talk with her, before you do anything. It may be that you have grown apart from each other (in that case that would be the reason you give her). But if you truly dont want to be with her anymore, then my only advise is that dont lie to her, you owe her that.
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JesterDJ
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 20:01:29
well people. i just sorted it out. didn't go fantastically but well, it was never goin to anyway.
Murray sound advice, but if u were sittin next to me and said that i probably would've taken a knife to ur throat. i know ur just being ur usual ****in around self but now that i've calmed down a bit, i can see that and i know u were just ****in around.
this was serious to me though man. i didn't appreciate that i gotta say.
anyways 2 peas in a bucket: **** it.
simon, that actually made me laugh there so nice one for that.
as for the rest, cheers for all your thoughts, i appreciate it and i did think about what u had said.
thanx again u lot
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JesterDJ
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 20:10:27
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Originally posted by whispering:
So in other words, when it gets tough your gonna give up?
If you really care about her, your stupid if your gonna leave her. I think you should first just talk with her, before you do anything. It may be that you have grown apart from each other (in that case that would be the reason you give her). But if you truly dont want to be with her anymore, then my only advise is that dont lie to her, you owe her that.
weren't that really mate, weren't so much as quitin at the first sign; we'd been tryin to sort out our problems for a month and hadn't gotten n e where. she said she try harder on her part but coz this is an involuntary thing for her, its something that has always affected the relationship so i knew that her tryin would just be bottling it up inside for it just to explode another time.
wise words though man, thanks a lot 
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Simon
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Posted - 2004/08/29 : 21:07:10
Oh well all said and done, good luck to you!
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tunnelrush
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Posted - 2004/08/30 : 00:05:37
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Oh well all said and done, good luck to you!
Same here  good luck jester
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Posted - 2004/08/30 : 01:24:56
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In the words of Homer Simpson "3 words.....I Am Gay".
Or
"I'm not gay..but I can learn."
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