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Phenex
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 Posted - 2007/05/30 : 10:47:45
my condolences :(
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Ravine
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 10:50:15
I must say, i've become so much more because of breakups. I mean you always go through a crazy shift after a big breakup. After my breakup, i finally decided to buy decks and get mixing. I mean hell that's been good for me. There's was some other stuff that i learnt and i might tell you about it. Maybe lend you a book when i drop by sometime.
As Silver said, take up some more hobbies. Anything to keep your mind off what's going on (drinking/doing drugs doesn't count as a hobby) and it'll do you good. Eventually, you'll find out that you've become a better person because of this.
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iluvhrdcor
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 10:58:24
i am really sorry mate, but i know how she feels though, my fiance used to take me for granted for ages and then i told him i was leaving but he then he cleaned up his act quick smart, a lesson learned for all...you just dont what you have untill its gone 
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Cotts
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 11:15:31
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Originally posted by iluvhrdcor:
i am really sorry mate, but i know how she feels though, my fiance used to take me for granted for ages and then i told him i was leaving but he then he cleaned up his act quick smart, a lesson learned for all...you just dont what you have untill its gone
yeah it's pretty much the same situation with me, but I cleaned up my act before things ended. She just then realised that she had been taken for granted for the past few years and decided that her feelings had faded.
A lot of it is my fault, but there are things that could have been fixed on her end. I have said im sorry to her but im realising now that it is time to move on. It just feels like this horrible feeling looming over my head is not going to stop.
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_BoNe_
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 11:27:35
Sorry to hear that mate.
Hope it all gets sorted and you end up getting back together, but if not, **** it, you may feel like shit now but in no time you'll be happy(er) again 
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bent_bananna
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 13:59:57
I always think that things could be far worse, deaths for example. That puts it in perspective for me
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Dj Fonz
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 14:41:12
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Originally posted by bent_bananna:
I always think that things could be far worse, deaths for example. That puts it in perspective for me
Thats it mate, i know it can be hard but at the end of the day its only a lady!
And you all know the saying
Dont chase just replace
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dj_deano
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 14:45:18
Have a wank.
Get out the house.
Turn off your computer, etc.
Get involved in something new that youve never tried, footie, martial arts, gym, stamp collecting, whatever. This will give you a new focus and stop you being a miserable ****.
Its pretty hard to say 'Cheer up', its gay as **** and makes you more miserable. Just do something to get away from it all.
Also some things arent meant to be and you know what not to do when you meet someone else.
Finally, have a wank.
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Ionosphere
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 18:49:20
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Originally posted by Dj Fonz:
But i am older than you so my advice must be better
yeh, something like that.
Or, the last words of Bhudda to his disciples, before he died - "Walk on".
....in other words, don't run around getting pissed, having sex, screaming, crying, moving home etc, etc, etc....
and Cotts. Good luck to you mate.
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Roberticus
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 22:12:01
Well, she might have been/is a great person and lover, but in the end, if it didn't really work, then you'll find someone else who can provide the same things as she did, but better :)
or that's atleast one way I use to cheer me up...
You might feel bad and all, just like having dark clouds above you, but a wise man said:
"The Sun always shine above the clouds".
And
"If all hope is lost, there is always the future left"
(This post might be considered useless, but oh well...)
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Cotts
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Posted - 2007/05/30 : 23:58:07
Thanks everyone,
Im feeling ok thismorning suprisingly so im just going to go to work and keep my head down all day and just put in heaps of effort.
Hmm what new hobby could I take up? so many possibilities.
Anyway I know this will take time, and im slowly coming to the realisation to accept all of this, I have burnt all of our photos etc.. onto dvd and gotten one of my mates to hide it away till later etc...
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Ravine
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Posted - 2007/05/31 : 09:11:44
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Originally posted by Cotts:Hmm what new hobby could I take up? so many possibilities.
How about Music Production?
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Cotts
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Posted - 2007/05/31 : 09:47:49
Well I have been meaning to for AGES to try and pick that up. I really want an external midi keyboard though.
I did some SERIOUS retail therapy today. I splashed out and bought a Pioneer DJM-800 :/
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dee_licious
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Posted - 2007/05/31 : 12:58:11
Breaking up is never nice. There's very little that helps you advice wise, its hard, but, i myself think of it as i would a death...cos really speaking it is. Its the death of a relationship. You need time to grieve and get over it. Keeping busy as has already been mentioned is about as much as you can do. The least time you have to actually sit and think of things the better...and as time moves on, you will find you spend less and less time thinking of her.
Never a good experience but it makes you realise what/where you went wrong and how you can do it much better next time.
Must admit, me personally could never go through it again, its something that i just don't want to do again. I have a fear of the break-up before i even think of starting a relationship, just talking about it now gives me shudders.
You should just try to look towards the future cos you never know whats round the corner....
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Cotts
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Posted - 2007/05/31 : 13:10:22
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Originally posted by dee_licious:
Breaking up is never nice. There's very little that helps you advice wise, its hard, but, i myself think of it as i would a death...cos really speaking it is. Its the death of a relationship. You need time to grieve and get over it. Keeping busy as has already been mentioned is about as much as you can do. The least time you have to actually sit and think of things the better...and as time moves on, you will find you spend less and less time thinking of her.
Never a good experience but it makes you realise what/where you went wrong and how you can do it much better next time.
Must admit, me personally could never go through it again, its something that i just don't want to do again. I have a fear of the break-up before i even think of starting a relationship, just talking about it now gives me shudders.
You should just try to look towards the future cos you never know whats round the corner....
Thanks mate, I think that is totally spot on. I know all that but I would have said it exactly the same way.
thanks :)
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