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Warnman
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 Posted - 2011/04/28 : 22:00:58
During Easter my brother-in-law begged me to become the godfather of my 2 months old nephew. And now I find myself being in a big dilemma.
1) I am really opposite to churches and religions, but still havn't left the religious community. I doubt I will be a proper guide for my nephew, although my brother-in-law assured me that they don't want to take it to the religious part that seriously. It shall be more like a "big brother relationship".
2) Tmo I totally fail to be s.o. you take an example or even admire.
3) There are so many f**ked up things, which take place on in my own life. How shall I take responsibilty for two existences, if I can barely handle one?
4) I really do love my 2nd nephew and it seems it is a two-way relationship (you should have noticed his reactions to me during Easter).
Damn! There are so many voices inside me telling me to refuse it, but I might will regret it afterwards. And I was told to be the indisputable no. 1 choice, too.
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latininxtc
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Posted - 2011/04/28 : 22:52:47
it ain't really that big of deal. i'm 1 of my nephew's godfathers, but since we have a huge family feud with that sister, i no longer see or speak to him.
but when i did i just followed along w/ the religious crap, even when atm i regret being involved w/ religion in the 1st place lol. you're pretty much supposed to act his big brother, but treat him nice, and give him a slightly more decent present come birthdays and x-mas than everyone else.
no matter how f**ked up your real life is, you can always hide all of that from him.
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Ionosphere
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Posted - 2011/04/29 : 00:23:01
Warnman, I admire your struggle with your conscience.
A 'Godfather' is exactly that. Exactly what it says.
If you're a non-believer then, quite simply, you can't be one. It's between you, your Godchild and God.
Bollocks to the pressures of 'society' that choose not to recognise this.
I could be wrong.
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jenks
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Posted - 2011/04/29 : 10:07:04
I didn't even realise it had much to do with religion at all to be honest. I just thought it was pretty much just a promise to look after the kid if anything happened to the parents. If you're not comfortable with whatever is being asked of you though just say no. Better that than making a promise you can't keep.
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DJ_FunDaBounce
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Posted - 2011/04/30 : 23:31:30
I happen to be in a similar situation atm since my sister wants me to be my 10 month old nephew's Godfather. I also understand what warnman says about wanting to be a proper guide. The thought has crossed my mind as well along with me regularly questioning many religious-spiritual beliefs (my own and those around me). This happens to be the second time I'm chosen to be a Godfather though this time around I perceive my faith differently. Maybe deeper, thus making myself question the whole idea even harder. I don't just want to "play along". I find this to be a very serious matter myself. I think the best I can do for myself and my nephew is to be as consistent as possible in my views.... period. We all make mistakes every now and then but if you're constantly searching for perfection in everyday life, or at least have the intention to, things will be much easier.
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djbood
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Posted - 2011/04/30 : 23:35:10
Just accept man, its all good
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tru bass
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Posted - 2011/04/30 : 23:39:17
Go for it.
Watch out though mate, when it's your daughter's wedding you best be prepared to do a few favours for people.
LOL
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Hard2Get
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Posted - 2011/05/01 : 00:31:43
I'm pretty sure god fathers don't actually do anything whatsoever. Just go along with it. Who gives a shit if you are religious or not. I'm also fairly certainly most 'Christians' know nothing of the bible or follow anything to do with it either.
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Warnman
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Posted - 2011/05/04 : 22:58:14
Thanks a lot for all your answers, opinions and thoughts regarding this. I have read every single reply and I tend to rejection. If my sister and my brother-in-law don't take it too seriously about religion and belief, I see no need for baptism at all. Still I will gladly be an older contact person for my nephew.
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