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Smoogie
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 20:57:31
There is a girl who I am really good friends with who I have started to fancy- alot! She is really pretty and we get along well and we will always be there for each other.
She was recently used and is just trying to recover the loss of anotehr friend. These factors make it hard for me to tell her how I feel. If I was with her I would always care for her and never let her down.
Any advice?
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Mortis
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 21:00:46
My advice...DON'T do it. Stay away and stay friends.
I lost one of the best people I've ever known because of this type of thing. She was my best mate, used to talk all day everyday without fail, then one day I slept with her...Things changed alot after that, we were never the same again. Ended up loosing touch with her, I see her around from time to time and we don't speak...it kills me 
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Smoogie
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 21:05:05
quote: Originally posted by Mortis:
My advice...DON'T do it. Stay away and stay friends.
I lost one of the best people I've ever known because of this type of thing. She was my best mate, used to talk all day everyday without fail, then one day I slept with her...Things changed alot after that, we were never the same again. Ended up loosing touch with her, I see her around from time to time and we don't speak...it kills me 
I'm sorry to hear that, Mortis. My friend went throught he same with anotehr guy the other week and is very upset. I can't turn off my feelings for her though
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Da Cunney Bugz
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 21:25:43
yer tough lines there ^^^^
my advice is next time you off to a party ask her if she wants come, then see how she judges it, it can be either a date or you jsut bringing a mate along, then see where it goes from there
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Mortis
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 21:27:24
quote: Originally posted by Smoogie:
I'm sorry to hear that, Mortis. My friend went throught he same with anotehr guy the other week and is very upset. I can't turn off my feelings for her though 
Trust me mate, if she's just been through a similar thing with someone else then she won't want to do it again. Best bet is to stay friends with her, you'll lose her if you make a move. Sit it out, if it's ment to be it's ment to be
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tunnelrush
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 21:57:02
Date er' boss :D
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Knightmare
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 22:02:50
ignore those feelings, I did it a few times, after a while it gets better
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Ard2theCore
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 22:39:12
Fu¢k her and let the consequences entail... Live life for the moment Smoogie my son.
Stop all the bloody worrying, go out and Fu¢kin' ave sum!!!!
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 22:55:40
My advice : don't obsess and don't partake in any rituals.
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chrissy69class
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 23:17:22
smoogie im in xactly the same place but its a lad lol i dunno if he likes me everyone says he does buttt if we did go out n then split up it'd be weird n become far distnce friends i think but problem is i think he's moving manchester
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Mortis
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 23:22:50
quote: Originally posted by chrissy69class:
problem is i think he's moving manchester 
If he is just jump him & do him ;)
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chrissy69class
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 23:26:19
lol its wel stupid cuz he's only told me and none of his m8's n when he told me we waz on the bus and got tears in my eyes i feel a prat now but i soooo don't want him 2 move HES A TWAT he's my closest boy mate gay gay gay I HATE HIM thats made me wel sad thinkin bout it now 4 fuks sake lol
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Leto
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 23:38:27
Smoogie, if you want to continue the relationship, invite her to a party, as previously mentioned and ask her more personal questions...maybe find out more about her.
Find out if you really want to date her.
I've been dating my best friend for a year and a half.
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iluvhrdcor
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Posted - 2006/05/20 : 23:40:02
umm i really have no clue, cause this is a very tough 1. see the thing is it might be good for you in the long run if you told her how you feel, but to do so close to the tragity might upset her at the moment.
i wouldn't tell her just yet mate, it really might scew things up for you. just wait for the right moment when things have settled down.
and with it being a friend thing, well a few of my mates liked me so i was told, and then i had a relationship with another one of these guys, all of my other mates now don't talk to me and haven't for 9/10 months now. so thats tough too. have a real think about it.
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Ionosphere
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 00:02:45
Seen this sort of thing too many times....
....I reckon it's the 'Availability Factor' that makes these friends become attractive.
It rarely has a future.
imo, like Mortis said, overcome the temptation and just stay friends....
....unless of course you're cold-blooded and selfish enough to simply take advantage of the situation.
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FriedRice
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 00:54:38
My friend had an appair with our married boss on Satday nite, he has kids too lol, just figured i'd add that lol
It will ruin the friendship afterwards so its your choice.....
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