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iluvhrdcor
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 Posted - 2007/02/20 : 19:07:45
my parents split up over nearly 4 years ago and there is still trouble going on. its so difficult to deal with.
my dad is re-married for about 7 months now and my mum is engaged. but all this trouble is being caused by my mum and her fiance' Kish and my younger sister Shona.
My sister has been in trouble ranking up her mobile getting massive bills and her boyfriend was paying for them untill one day he said no more. so she moved out with my mum which is 6 hours away and asked her to help pay for it otherwise it was going to the debt collectors. So my mum said she would pay for half of it if my father paid for half, and he said no because she cant keep expecting people to pay for things when she gets into trouble. and she needs to grow up and start being responsible.
so she hasnt spoken to my dad for 3 months because he didnt pay for her bill and didnt even talk to him for xmas. and my dad is really sad about it.
so any way she moved back into her bf's place and he eventually paid for the bill. then they broke up because she keeps getting drunk and using him for his money and she moved back with my mum.
now my mum gets wasted alot. and got her partner to call up my dad at 1am to say "stay out of shona's life she is living with us now" and then he hung up. and now they keep calling him so he had to change his number and texted my sister and said ok you have won, i am out of your life for good, good bye Shona.
and i had dinner with him last night and he looks really sad and depressed.
i am really sick of my mum acting like a child and being bitter and i hate how my sister doesnt even care how this is affecting my dad.
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Underloop
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Posted - 2007/02/20 : 19:13:32
Families can suck at times. Sounds like your Mum and Sislter need to sort their lives out. The fact that they are doing all that stupid stuff sounds to me like its their own insecurities rather than any hatred towards your Dad.
It was you who told me that you have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else wasn't it? ;-)
But yeah, sorry to hear you and your family are going through all that, it really sucks. Just keep strong, and try not to get caught in the cross-fire!
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kathryn
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Posted - 2007/02/20 : 19:44:42
sorry to hear that
families are hard at times i know, hope things sort themselves out for you
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Mortis
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Posted - 2007/02/20 : 20:04:15
All families go through tough times, you just have to work through them. Best advice I can give is if they're pissing you off and upsetting you that much then change your number and try to move on from them. I know it's your mum & sister, but if they're trying to make your life a misery then they might not be worth trying to hang on too. Sad I know, but they do sound like complete cock ends.
Hope it works out for you in the end, hang in there.
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dee_licious
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Posted - 2007/02/20 : 23:41:51
I agree with Matthew, you need to make sure you don't get stuck in the middle cos its easy for them to use you as a go-between now they aren't speaking.
Its really really hard when families (parents) split up, both individuals can become selfish and want whats best for them and not siblings. Its not a nice place to be and i really feel for you! Keep ya chin up chicken!
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Posted - 2007/02/21 : 00:19:27
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Charco
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Posted - 2007/02/21 : 00:53:34
Sorry to hear that. Stay strong!!
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whispering
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Posted - 2007/02/21 : 06:27:01
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Originally posted by iluvhrdcor:
and he said no because she cant keep expecting people to pay for things when she gets into trouble. and she needs to grow up and start being responsible.
so she hasnt spoken to my dad for 3 months because he didnt pay for her bill and didnt even talk to him for xmas. and my dad is really sad about it.
I got lost there, who sayd 'no'? Anyway sorry to hear that. We have had this unspoken rule in our family that anyone our parents are dating, married to etc have zero input in our family affairs, they sometimes try to get involved but no one really cares. My point is, your mothers fiance should not put his nose where it doesnt belong. Your mother cant say what type of relationship your sister has with her father, its between them. Shona should realise what shes going to miss out on, if shes going to just be 'ok' about the situation. And why the hell did your father text that to her?
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Brian K
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Posted - 2007/02/21 : 07:24:50
I agree with your dad...I feel sorry for him. Pathetic that your mom has to have her husband call up your dad because she can't talk to him herself.
Try to stay close to both your parents and possibly try and get your sis to go visit your dad. It's one thing to have an ex mad at you but a son/daughter I think hurts more.
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Hardcore4eva
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Posted - 2007/02/21 : 07:44:18
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so she hasnt spoken to my dad for 3 months because he didnt pay for her bill and didnt even talk to him for xmas. and my dad is really sad about it.
so any way she moved back into her bf's place and he eventually paid for the bill. then they broke up because she keeps getting drunk and using him for his money and she moved back with my mum.
Spoilt brat!
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Meathead
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Posted - 2007/02/21 : 14:47:49
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Originally posted by Hardcore4eva:
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so she hasnt spoken to my dad for 3 months because he didnt pay for her bill and didnt even talk to him for xmas. and my dad is really sad about it.
so any way she moved back into her bf's place and he eventually paid for the bill. then they broke up because she keeps getting drunk and using him for his money and she moved back with my mum.
Spoilt brat!
yeah :)
im sorry to hear that, must be hard to go through. i dont wanna tell u how to run your life but i dont think walkin away is the answer, i think - although it wont happen for some time - ur family - not includin parents' partners - need to sit down n talk about this, the problem wont resolve itself it needs to be discussed IMO. as mortis said hang in there :)
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reenz
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Posted - 2007/02/22 : 09:41:12
oh dear that sucks :( i guess important thing for you to do aswell is that sure your sister and mum are acting crazy but if they do come to their senses dont turn your back on them either.... i dont know thats how i see it but then again i dont really know the full scope of your situation... try not to take sides either... i mean it seems like your dad is the victim in all of this but they could change their tune and you wouldnt want things to be all bitter after that.... ps how olds your sister like 16??? lol
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iluvhrdcor
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Posted - 2007/02/23 : 02:44:20
yeah she acts like she is 16 but she is 21 this year. thanks everyone for you advice as well. really helps me out.
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